Single and cool with it!

You meet a girl, you like that girl, you tell your friends that there is this girl that you like and every one of your friend(well, almost) reacts in the same way ‘Oh, that is good.. Go ahead… make a move… ask her out… do something… she can be your girlfriend’. ‘If you  like a girl, you are supposed to try for her even if you have met her just once’ is like some new rule. Why is it so important that I try for the girl just after I have met her once? Why is it important that I make some move ASAP? Why do I have to decide right now if I want her to become my girlfriend? ‘Hey, you have to call her or ping her within three days dude.’ says a friend and on retorting that I don’t understand this shitty rule he replies ‘Hey its the Barney Stinson rule!’ Well, OK THEN!

We have come to accept this thing that if you like a girl then you immediately have to start trying for her and start flirting with her. People react in such impossibly shocking way when you say that you just want to be friends with that girl that I think it is the most stupidest thing to say EVER. ‘You wanna be friends with her? Why? But she is pretty? But you like her?’. Some even go at length to say ‘par ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte be!’ and I really wanna slap them in the face. Please! A guy and a girl can easily be friends and stay that way. May be, MAY BE, they can’t be the bestest of friends but they surely can be friends. I think these people hear ‘love’ when I say ‘like’ a girl cause for me liking a girl is really no big deal. Especially when you have just met the girl once in which case you don’t know much about her and you don’t actually like the girl but you just like the idea of her. If you start going after every girl you like, how can you stay friends with girls? Its stupid! At least wait to be sure if you really wanna be in a relationship with her before you try to make a move or whatever it is that you are gonna do.

I don’t understand why it is so important to go after a girl or why it is so important to be in a relationship? Why is it so important that I find some girl and be in a relationship with her? Why do I have to be in a relationship with some girl? Moreover, why does everyone wants me to be in a relationship? Why do WE want everybody to be in a relationship? ‘Oh, you are single, go find some girl and be in a relationship with her!’ Why isn’t single cool? Being judged for being single is the new thing it seems, however small thing it might be. People judge you if you are single and if not then there is at the least this admiration for people who are in a relationship, no matter how shitty their relationship might be. May be this is just me. Studying in a engineering college and that too in  I.I.T. where boy to girl ratio is 10 to 1 and way more less if you look at some particular department, that is the view you tend to develop. People who are in a relationship are the ‘dudes’ in my college. ‘Hey that guy is awesome, you know? Have you seen his girlfriend?’ is how people refer to the idiots in our college. People who are in a relationship are respected so much that people who are single are subconsciously looked at as nobody or losers. It’s not bad to be in a relationship but it is in no way bad to be single either.

What I am not comfortable with is the idea that you should have a go at every girl that you meet and like; that every time you meet some girl and like her, you should question yourself if you want to be in a relationship with her and if you feel even a little bit inclined to it you should get her phone number, friend her on facebook, ping her, message her, and constantly try for her till she gives up and starts liking you or till she friendzones you. Well that seems to be the way people get into a relationship these days. It’s sort of funny to me that people who have known each other for like 4-5 weeks get into a relationship. I mean I don’t even consider someone as a good friend if i have know them for that short period of time. (May be that is why I am single. :P)

My idea of relationship is very old school, I suppose. You meet some girl, you become friends, you spend more time together, you become good friends, you go through the ups and downs of life together(as friends) and then may be somewhere along the way fall in love with each other. Too filmy? Too kuch kuch hota hai, jaane tu ya jaane na, Hum Tum type filmy? I know! I am not saying this is the best way to fall in love. This is just one way. My point is one shouldn’t think about being in a relationship with every girl they like. It is okay to be single. Not every time you meet some girl that you like, do you need to ask yourself if you wanna be in a relationship with her? Being single is cool! And wanting to be single is way more cooler!

PS: I am sorry if I have gone off the limits in some places and if this offends someone. Please let me know if it does. 😛 I may have said too much in some places some of it might not even be true like the statement “People who are in a relationship are respected so much that people who are single are subconsciously looked at as nobody or losers.” but it was just too much emotions flowing. 🙂